Author Archives: Karen Dean Fritts

The Secret Sauce Of Parenting!

Every child needs experience to develop self-reliance.  Self-reliance is perhaps one of the most Authoritative-parentingvital components of a healthy, well-functioning adult.  Discipline that is democratic, gives the child the opportunity to practice his or her self-reliance.

Democratic discipline is the willingness to share power.  Frequently, parents confuse sharing power with giving it away, thus creating an over-permissive environment.  Democratic discipline means involving the entire family as soon as possible with the complex process of interacting with each other.   Young children can learn how to participate.  Leaning to express feelings and openly work on conflicts creates a household filled with caring and an emphasis on cooperation.  When a child feels his opinions, feelings, and thoughts are valued, he or she will feel loved.  When a human being feels loved AND valued he wants to cooperate; he or she is much more interested in negotiating conflicts and far more capable of being flexible.

Many adults enter into parenthood with a strong need for power since they have grown up under the restrictions of “tough” parents, teachers, and employers.   It is only natural that when a person becomes a parent (a position loaded with power), there may be a tendency to unilaterally call the shots.  It is easy to parent the SAME as or OPPOSITE from what we knew.  Copying or being polar opposite is not the answer.  Finding your own style and creating a balance of love that exhibits strength, kind leadership, and true compassion is the “Secret Sauce” of Parenting.

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OUR DAD!

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THIS IS OUR DAD! WE DON’T HAVE A PICTURE OF OUR MOM! THIS IS PROOF THAT SADIE BUG IS BEING SILLY ABOUT THE WHOLE ‘BORN IN A CUP THING’! SO, THIS STORY IS ABOUT HOW TWO SISTERS (PRETEND WE ARE HUMAN-LIKE) CAN BE SORT OF ALIKE BUT SO DIFFERENT EVEN THOUGH WE ARE ‘TWINS’. SHE CAN REALLY BUG ME SOMETIMES. I AM MY OWN PERSON.

INTRODUCING: ‘Sophie Bear’

Bear2SO, HERE I AM!  I AM SADIE BUG’S TWIN SISTER, SOPHIE BEAR.  I KNOW WE LOOK NOTHING ALIKE.  BUT, WE WERE BORN FROM THE SAME MOM AND DAD.  TWO MINUTES APART…

SHE’S OLDER AND BOSSY…YEESH! SADIE IS WORRIED SHE CAME FROM A “CUP”…I KNOW WE DIDN’T.  I LOOKED JUST LIKE MY DAD (NEXT PICTURE).

I AM MUCH BIGGER AND VERY DIFFERENT!

THE INNER “Voices” OF DOGS!

INTRODUCING:  ‘SADIE BUG’ SADIESO, HERE I AM…PRETTY CUTE, EH?

I AM VERY TINY.  I HAVE A FEW HEALTH CHALLENGES.  I CAN’T DO EVERYTHING THAT “NORMAL DOGS” CAN DO.  WHAT’S NORMAL” ANYWAY?

YOU KNOW HOW SOME PEOPLE “WONDER” IF THEY WERE ADOPTED?

SEE WHAT I MEAN?  I REALLY DO THINK I CAME FROM A CUP!

IT’S NO WONDER, I HAVE A MAJOR FEAR OF RED MUGS…

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A Look at “The Perfectionist”

08eb4ceThe term “Perfectionist” is used to define a person who generally strives to do things perfectly AND also may those around him or her to do the same.  Very often these people are extremely high achievers.  They seem to accomplish multiple tasks and do an outstanding job.  Although striving for quality and high standards can be a positive attribute, it can, as with anything else, be taken to an extreme and become a real problem.  People who live, love or work with a perfectionist often feel subtle disapproval of the smallest infraction or deviation from the PERFECT.  This can create tensions in the relationship. It’s important to remind a ‘healthy perfectionist’ that not everyone is the same. In fact, we are all different!

 The perfectionist…often complains of feeling overly driven and bothered by trivial details that many others can overlook.  They are left feeling disappointed in others and resentful.  They vow that to get anything done correctly, they must do it themselves!  This leaves an ever-growing mountain of tasks to be accomplished.  Overwhelmed and exhausted, the perfectionist may become cranky and sound more like a ‘drill sergeant’. Unrealistic expectation to place on yourself or those around you is unsustainable.  Try to distinguish between what is high quality and what is perfect… there is a tremendous difference.  One is attainable and the other is not!

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